Let's talk laundry:
So Jennifer, the cleanliness of whose home I can personally attest to being quite impressive, especially for a single mama, is having laundry woes. She says she washes some things five times and can't get the stains out. Her kids are eight and two, and from what I've seen, do not spend their time in swamps and tar pits.
Jennifer, my absolute best advice is to remove any garment that has a worrisome stain and use spot treatment immediately, especially if you can't wash it right away. I know this sounds like a pain, and I am not speaking out of OCD, I'm speaking out of clothes are fucking expensive yo, and we don't want our kids looking like some vagrants. This may sound overwhelming but stash an extra t-shirt and bottoms for Elijah and Zoe in your car for those spontaneous Target cherry Icee spills. Also, carry a stain stick, if not in your purse, in your glove compartment. Treat them and try to fast-track them into the wash. Again, I'm not being a freak. Other ideas are to have play clothes (hand-me-downs, Goodwill, etc.) and stick the kids in those when they get home, and to have Zoe use a bib if she doesn't already. If she balks, give her one of Elijah's shirts or some other special-type garment that will go over better.
Recap: Stain treat asap, have extras around, play clothes. Does that help?